Feminism through its true meaning meant that “equal rights to be substituted for both the genders, by uplifting the oppressed gender not by suppressing the other counterpart”. Social development works in a two-wayed unison, not by just uplifting one and kicking the other one. It is like the Robinhood story; Gives to the poor while taking from the rich. “It should be making the Poor more Richer, not the Richer more Poorer”.

India also witnessed many of the things that started with the Western Countries. Feminism was also one of the ideals. But India to an extent was not practicing the western type of patriarchal ideas.

With great power comes great responsibility. But, the problem with Marxism infested feminist movement is that it only focuses on power for women. As a result, terms like “goon”, usually associated with bad men, are being used for ladies. Noida’s lady goon is facing the same scrutiny as Shrikant Tyagi.

Bhavya Roy abuses the watchman with classist and sexist cuss words

Recently, a video went viral on social media. In the video, a lady named Bhavya Roy is seen abusing the watchman of her society. She is addressing the poor watchman using the worst possible language in the Hindi lexicon. Obviously, we cannot air it here, but the abuses hurled at the poor watchman are the same abuses that the PM during his Independence Day speech urged the countrymen to stop using. Add to that, this woman had the audacity to tell the watchman that he needs to respect women.

But misogyny and misandry are not the only phenomena present here. The drunk woman Bhavya Roy showed her class arrogance as well. She showed utter discontent towards Bihar and Biharis. Yes, the same Bihar which has produced gems like Chanakya and modern-day giants like Vedanta Chairman Anil Aggarwal.

Favourable treatment by Police

Probably, her arrogance emerged from her entitled attitude toward being a lawyer. Bhavya Roy, who did not waste a second before abusing the poor watchman is a Labour and Employment advocate. Her LinkedIn profile shows that a woman who has a deep-seated hatred for the state of Bihar is seen championing ‘Diversity and Inclusion' in her professional circle. Irony just died a thousand deaths in Noida.

But, a more baffling fact is how law enforcement agencies are treating her. Her arrest did not seem like an arrest. Bhavya Roy was driving the vehicle in which she was supposed to go to the Police station. A lady constable was sitting beside her. Tell me, doesn’t it look like Bhavya Roy has arrested the police rather than the other way around?

Sexist approach to justice

Now, compare that with how Shrikant Tyagi was arrested in Meerut. He was literally subjected to force by law enforcement authorities. His construction was bulldozed, which is legally a correct step. His crime? Well, he had misbehaved with the woman, the same crime which Bhavya Roy committed with the watchman, only with genders reversed. There is clearly a separate standard and decency with which law enforcement agencies handle women criminals.

But, Bhavya Roy is not the only case that showcases this grim but publicly hidden reality. A few months ago, Lucknow had witnessed a similar but more physically violent incident. A girl was seen hitting a man on Lucknow roads. The man was treated with nearly 20 slaps and no person came to save him. It took 3 days for the police to register an FIR against the girl named Priyadarshini. To date, there is no report about her being arrested by the Police, while the poor guy has already spent a night in the Police station. Talk about the male privilege.

Need to differentiate between good and bad women

Various other such videos of women manhandling and abusing men are out there in the public domain, but Police and the system keep sleeping on it. Lots of them are domestic violence against men by their wives, but our misandrist laws do not even recognize that men can be victims too.

To this, आदर्श मिश्र@prayagvashi wrote to @DeepikaBhardwaj, @Dimpy_Mahendru, and @agrapolice, "Her behaviour is worst in comparison to Tyagi."

Ankur Srivastava @AnkurSriUK too wrote, replying to @DeepikaBhardwaj, @Dimpy_Mahendru, and @agrapolice, "Shame on such a teacher... I can never send my kids to a so-called teacher who has not learned to respect a human life…"

 Deepika Narayan Bhardwaj @DeepikaBhardwaj uploaded another video where their daughter-in-law can be seen beating an elderly man, "There are so many elderly in the country who are at mercy of their sons and daughters-in-law. They're ill-treated like this in their old age. This video is from Jind, Haryana. Thankfully @JindPolice seems to have registered a case after a report by @Sahilrukhaya7 got noticed."

STICK story @nishantO5O3 replied, "@DeepikaBhardwaj @JindPolice and @Sahilrukhaya7 India culture supported the circle of life - parents nurture their children, children nurture parents when they get old. But it’s destroyed by women asking husbands to leave their parents. It’s patriarchy 4 them but it was as per nature where M are coded to provide and W to care."

Talking about abuse and domestic violence can be a difficult task for anyone. It can be painful, confusing, and make you feel ashamed, inadequate, and isolated.

And it can be incredibly challenging when you are a man because of all the stigma, fear, misinformation, and societal pressures that only men seem to experience.

We know that while domestic violence does not discriminate when it comes to gender, men seem to not report abuse in the same way women do. In fact, many men remain silent because they think there’s no point in reporting the abuse because no one will ever believe them.

Some of the myths about abuse and why are men not believed

 Myth #1: The world tells us that men can’t be victims of abuse.

We know that 1 in 10 men have experienced rape, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner and yet, we also hear from our male contacts that they are simply not believed or taken seriously when reporting the abuse to family members, friends or law enforcement. On average, 24 people per minute are victims of rape, physical violence, or stalking by an intimate partner, so violence can and does happen to men too!

For e.g. In a strange case of domestic violence, a school principal in #Alwar district of #Rajasthan has moved the court seeking protection from the physical and mental harassment of his wife. According to the man, his wife has been beating him black and blue leaving him weak mentally.

One of the most important and compassionate things that we can do to support male victims of abuse and domestic violence is to simply believe. It’s worth repeating: do not judge, do not criticize, and listen without questioning the victim’s experience. It’s already hard enough to reach out for help when you are a man, so if you find that a male victim wants to share their experience with you, don’t be so quick to judge or assume that they are not telling the truth.

Myth #2: The media tells us men are just the perpetrators of violence, but never the victims.

In “Contribution of Media to the Normalization and Perpetuation of Domestic Violence,” we see that domestic violence has become so pervasive in our society thanks to media exposure that we have become desensitized and even accustomed to it. According to this study, “chronic and repeated exposure to domestic violence is believed to cause changes in affective, cognitive, and behavioral processes.” So, what happens when this repeated exposure only portrays men as perpetrators and not victims? You get the idea.

But make no mistake: domestic violence is not normal, it’s not a joke and it’s not something we should readily accept as something that only happens to women. It happens to men too.

This is a great way to not only keep track of the situation but also to materialize the abuse, as we mentioned before, many people believe that if they don’t talk about it’s like it’s not really happening. If you are experiencing abuse, it may help to document the situation: There are several ways you can do document the abuse: take pictures of yourself if you have physical cuts and bruises, keep a calendar that shows the instances of the abuse suffered or start journaling as a way to document the abuse in an organized fashion. Documenting the abuse can help in two ways: It can be a cathartic way to deal with negative emotions and it may also help the victim to obtain legal aid later on. Remember, if you decide to document your experience, make sure your abuser can’t get access to your documents or pictures, so he/she can’t destroy the evidence and so that you can remain safe while you figure out the next steps in your relationship.

Myth #3: Men are not real men if they can’t take it.

We hear from male contacts that reach out to The Hotline daily that they feel emasculated and like less of a man when undergoing situations of abuse at the hands of their spouses or partners. Some have even reported feeling so ashamed that they don’t want to acknowledge the abuse because they fear that if they do they will make the situation “real.” According to the American Psychological Association, stereotypes of masculinity can have a negative effect on young boys and men because they can stigmatize “normal human emotions,” and if a man feels stigmatized about what’s happening to him, it’s very likely they might not want to report the abuse or talk about ways of dealing with it and their emotions. Feeling angry, scared, or sad are normal emotions for all people when dealing with abuse regardless of sex or sexual orientation and they don’t have to “take it” to prove their masculinity.

Perhaps there’s a good friend or a coworker you can confide in when talking about what you are experiencing. Having a strong support system could be the key to getting through difficult times. You don’t have to share everything that is happening to you, but just the fact there is someone there to listen to what you are going through can be beneficial for your emotional well-being.

Such video of crime against men by women is normal nowadays that every social media is full of it and still no action is being taken to cure this issue. 

Following videos show a girl hitting a man's private part, molesting his chest & pulling his hair publicly.

Even the judiciary mocks men who are beaten by wives. "Husband who gets beaten up by his wife is a lucky man. That beating is a blessing. She's a goddess. Why are you complaining that your wife is beating you": Gwalior High Court Want any more proof that judges & Laws are Anti Men?! Absolutely Insensitive Gaslighting!

A female judge in one of her rulings ordered: "If removal of the husband is the only way to ensure domestic peace, he must be asked to leave the house."

On 75 years of Independence, PM Modi had urged the nation to respect women. But there is a caveat to it. Not every woman is good or bad. Even our scriptures identify that. There is a reason why there is a concept of Devi and Rakshashi in Sanatan Shastras. Both characteristics lie inside every woman. The more society appreciates Devi and punishes Rakshasi, the more virtuous it will become.

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